Single By Choice!

A few weeks ago, I had lunch with a female friend who is in her 30's, single and attractive. At the start of the lunch she told me she was happy being single and she enjoyed her freedom. I then asked her whether she missed the intimacy of being in a loving relationship - and when I looked into her eyes I knew the answer!

If you believe what you read in the newspapers, then there has never been a better time to be a single man or woman. The term "spurmos" - straight, proud, unmarried men over 30 - is new to me, also "freemales" - women who are too busy having a good time to worry  or have time for relationships. I wonder how many spurmos and freemales are in my network of friends?

The stereotype of the single woman is of someone crying into her Chardonnay as she watches another episode of her Sex and the City box set, the stereotype of the single man is someone gallivanting through town from one wild and sexual affair to another.

In my opinion, both men and women want the same things: intimacy, the sense that there is someone to whom you are the most important person in the world, the person you call first thing in the morning and the last thing at night. Being single gives you freedom, but the truth is never like the fantasy :-) 

Are you single by choice?